Text | Gongziyi
A woman must be clear about such a thing in marriage:
If you cannot accept the poverty of a man and his poor family, do not marry him. Don't do that kind of thing, you look down on him, but marry him silly things.
A colleague once described his boyfriend's parents like this: "The moment I saw his parents, I was particularly disgusted. I do n’t know why. I did n’t want to touch anything they had with their hands. You do n’t know, rural How dirty it is, their chopped vegetables and their chopping boards are not separate. I am too difficult to accept. "
I am also a rural girl. When I was a kid, our chopping boards for cutting vegetables and meat were not separate. She said this, it aroused my self-esteem as a poor man.
So I asked her: "If you look down on his parents so much, why marry him?"
She said, "I married this man, not his parents. I will only live with him in the future, and I will never live with his parents."
But the question is, what do you think about your husband's parents like this? You can also think in other words. If your husband is disgusted when you see your parents, will you feel better?
Even more frightening is that this feeling is not temporary, it will accumulate as your marriage deepens.
Zhang Yang described her marriage like this:
"We have been married for ten years, and my wife suspected that my parents had arrived, and all the food my parents had taken was thrown away.
After we got married, we didn't live with our parents. She loves to clean and I follow her. We all went to college outside. I also know that hygiene is right. But my parents lived in small villages all their lives, and my father went out to work. My mother is over 60 years old this year and has never even taken a train. The farthest place she has been to is our small county.
I also know that my parents don't like cleanliness. After we are together, I try not to let my parents come to our little house, because every time she comes, she is not happy. But every New Year, I have to go home as a son to visit my parents.
As long as this time, our home is the same as the battlefield. I want to take the child back to my parents' house, she is not willing. She felt that my parents' home was so dirty that she didn't even have a place to sit. I asked my parents to change the sheets, but I still couldn't satisfy her.
But I am her husband and the son of my parents. My parents raised me, and I had little control. When the holidays were over, I wouldn't go home again, and I felt that I was not filial. "
"I finally begged to coax her and her children back to my hometown. Really, I just went back three or four times a year, and she started to be upset again.